Eight years ago, 29-year-old Barry Farmer decided he wanted to be a foster parent.
“I went through the training, the director who was there told me I was perfect for the program,” Farmer recalled.
Now, he’s the adoptive father to 14-year-old Darrell,12-year-oldd Xavier, and 6-year-old Jeremiah.
“I didn’t expect one kid, let alone three,” he added. “When someone calls you dad, you’re like, ‘who me?’ I just like taking care of children.”
Farmer, an African-American, believes that everyone deserves a family. He admits that at first, he and his three children received more than a few stares when the went out together.
“In this day in time when it comes to family, and seeing color or seeing unity and belonging, and that’s what I was hoping to accomplish with my family anyway,” Farmer said. “When I have them now I can’t imagine them anywhere else, and it’s a typical family. We may not look alike, but it’s a typical family. I just want them to be someone that I can be proud of and they can be proud of and that’s all it takes.”
“We may not look alike, but it’s a typical family.” — Barry Farmer
One of Farmer’s children, 14-year-old Darrell, says he loves cars and wants to be a mechanic when he grows up. Seven years ago, he says his dad asked him the most important question of his young life.
“Dad was like, ‘can I be your dad forever?’ And I was like, ‘you already are.’ And that is how I came to stay here. I was in this dark spot at first and then he just comes in the picture. And everything’s all right.”
There are nearly 800 children who need loving homes in Virginia. More foster and adoptive parents are needed. If you would like more information the number to call is 1-800-DO-ADOPT.