It’s a great honor for someone to ask you to be in their wedding party, but for some bridesmaids, the experience involves far more stress than fun. For one unlucky bridesmaid, it wound up being both emotionally exhausting and financially stressful — a double whammy of bad.
The anonymous bridesmaid, who wrote about her experience on Mamamia.com, said that she was initially “overjoyed” when her friend Caroline asked her to be a bridesmaid. However, her “joy quickly turned to utter despair” when Caroline began getting obsessive about every aspect of her wedding, from the buttonholes for the groomsmen to the table decorations. One day, she even asked the misfortunate bridesmaid to make an Excel document of cake-maker suggestions, including the pricing, contact info, flavors and “prestige” level — and wanted it that day, no less.
The author complied when she had time the next day, apologizing for taking a little longer than was originally
requested demanded — something the bride didn’t seem to appreciate.
On Saturday morning I cancelled my breakfast plans, instead researching Tasmanian wedding cake-makers (she’d decided to have a picturesque destination wedding) that might be suitable. I sent it through to her and had a reply almost immediately.
“Thanks for this, would’ve been really helpful to have it yesterday when specified but I appreciate it.”
Yikes. As if all that wasn’t enough, the difficult bride also insisted on shopping for three consecutive weekends to find the perfect wedding gown and bridesmaid dresses — a lot of time to ask seven friends to dedicate to your wedding day. Oh, and did I mention the bridesmaid dresses were $550 a piece? But that’s not even the craziest part of all this.
Caroline found a gorgeous designer wedding dress, but it was priced at $10,500 — twice the amount allotted in her budget for a gown. The other bridesmaids told her to “totally splurge,” which she did… only to request that her bridesmaids “pitch in” for her “dream dress.” Caroline’s reasoning? It would be a sentimental treasure that all the bridesmaids would have a part in if they paid for it.
The author felt totally enraged by the request — after all, Caroline had been the one to decide on an incredibly expensive dress for herself. Three of the seven bridesmaids have already stated they’re desire to chip in for the dress, but the disenchanted author isn’t so quick to jump on the contribution train. In fact, she writes that she is starting to think she may “have to bail on this wedding, and friendship.” To be honest, it sounds like her bank account and sanity would thank her.