Breastfeeding Mom Shuts Down Haters With One Photo


Sitting in a restaurant, surrounded by people, Ashley Kaidel fed her son. The trouble for one fellow diner was that Kaidel was giving her 6-month-old milk from her uncovered breast at her table.

But as the diner glared at the Florida mother of two “with disgust,” according to Kaidel, the 24-year-old didn’t cower. She stared right back in defiance — and then fired off a Facebook post complete with a photo from the upsetting encounter that has gone viral urging other nursing moms to stand strong against shaming for public feeding.

“In the picture, it appears I’m staring off into the distance,” writes Kaidel in her Nov. 24 post, which has been liked a staggering 383,000 times. “In reality, I’m staring into the eyes of a woman staring at me. She is looking at me … and shaking her head with judgment in an attempt to shame me and indirectly tell me without words that I am wrong and need to cover myself.”

Kaidel, who has since created the Intactalactivist Mama Facebook pagefor breastfeeding moms, continues to explain that she isn’t speaking out to say, “Everyone should breastfeed without a cover. Show the world your boobs!” but to support the moms who choose to do so in the face of “nasty comments” and requests that she “leave the room” or cover up.

“Breastfeeding mothers are protected under federal law to breastfeed any way, any how, and anywhere they’re allowed to be in all circumstances otherwise,” she writes, adding, “You should not ever feel shamed, belittled, embarrassed, or wrong for feeding your baby the way nature intended … [Breasts’] sole purpose is to make food and dispense it straight into a baby’s mouth. There is nothing weird about this and there’s no difference in me feeding my baby with my breast than you feeding yourself with a spoon.”

If someone has an issue with witnessing a child breastfeeding, Kaidel implores, “just look away.” She adds, “It is exponentially unfair and selfish to ask a mother and baby to exclude themselves from a table or event or gathering because you’re for some reason uncomfortable with how she feeds her child. No person should be isolated and shunned because they’re eating, especially when you yourself are eating while ridiculing how someone else is eating.”

The mother, who signs off as “a badass breastfeeding (uncovered) mama,” is passionate about nursing because the ability has been hard-won. Kaidel was able to breastfeed her 4-year-old daughter for only two weeks (because of what she now knows was her daughter’s “severe lip tie”) and endured a number of setbacks with her son including his tongue-tie and her mastitis, before he was able to begin successfully breastfeeding. “My sweet, patient boy and I have been through way too much to ever be anything other than proud of our breastfeeding journey and will never be shamed into hiding in a bathroom stall,” she declares in a Nov. 28 post on Intactalactivist Mama. “We worked HARD to be able to breastfeed and bond.”

With her viral photo and message, Kaidel declares, she simply wants to “give mamas encouragement. And to encourage others to make breastfeeding mothers feel accepted and supported; not alienated, ridiculed and judged.”

Jennifer O’Neill

6 thoughts on “Breastfeeding Mom Shuts Down Haters With One Photo

  • December 2, 2015 at 3:58 PM

    Its her business what she does, breast feeding is not a dirty thing to do, its natural and beautiful for mother and baby

    • December 6, 2015 at 4:11 AM

      No one is arguing that breastfeeding is bad or disgusting, even the people who do not like it in public generally agree its perfectly fine and many encourage it. But it does not mean you should flop it out in a eatery without any respect for someone who does not want to see your breast while they eat. Why do strippers not go to eat dinner with nothing but tiny stars covering up their nipple? Because its disrespectful and is just generally not a good thing to do. I have 3 kids and all 3 where breast fed and never once did my wife feed them in a restaurant because to make that the feeding time of your child that is on purpose and only one good reason to do so is to draw attention to yourself and create a scene. While I do not personally care if you want to show yourself in public next time you want to just flop out your breasts think about if some guy whips out his nuts and dangles them at your table, because the same rules apply for breasts in most ( not all ) areas on exposure just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Stop creating more problems trying to insult people on purpose just to get your 5 minutes of fame. I have never seen a single child that required feeding in a 15 min span that was completely random, how about feed them 10 mins before you go eat?

  • December 2, 2015 at 10:46 PM

    She may think she is winning a battle but there is much evil out there just waiting for an excuse to commit heinous crimes. She is offering them more justification for their hatred/ She is fueling a fire.


    • December 2, 2015 at 10:57 PM

      Your America is dying. What is happening here is a set-up for more hate crimes. I think what she is doing is beautiful but it should be done in privacy. Come up with all the justifications that you want. There is a lot of hate out there and as I said in my comment she is adding fuel to the fire.

      It’s not something politicians or the courts should decide. It is society who judges and there are in my minds eye more people against breast feeding in public than for. Perhaps I should take a pee in the dining area. That too is natural. Toilets like diapers and blankets for breast feeders are man made for a purpose. A bathroom was created for a purpose. When someone does something like this it becomes an anything goes society. I see a day when people will just pee and crap anywhere they want. Like breastfeeding…it comes by nature.

      When the haters come out of the closet what will people like her feel then? Good luck.

      • December 3, 2015 at 6:29 AM

        I understand where you are coming from and it makes a very good point, expecially to the fact that we have to assimilate, we have to cower so as not to upset anyone thus creating a social phobic world

  • December 3, 2015 at 2:41 PM

    Why the hell not. Although, I will say as a man I will find it hard not to stare.. A hot girl with boobs…come on now. But, other men not be able to calm just impulses. Any women that breastfeeds in public should be ready to face that…. It’s a mans nature.


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