Having a miscarriage is a devastating loss, but what can make matters worse is that people rarely talk about it, which often results in sufferers feeling isolated. What’s more, there’s so much confusion surrounding what actually causes a miscarriage and how common pregnancy loss really is, leaving many women blaming themselves for an event that, in the vast majority of cases, is completely beyond their control.
So we got some very much needed information in order to help shed some light on miscarriage and erase fears.
Myth #1: Miscarriages are rare.
They’re actually surprisingly common, particularly within the first 12 weeks of pregnancy.
Myth #2: Miscarriages can be triggered by stress or heavy lifting.
This myth is a pervasive one. Case in point: A 2013 survey of more than 1,000 women and men conducted by researchers at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine and Montefiore Medical Center found that 76 percent of people believe that a stressful event can trigger a miscarriage, while 64 percent think that lifting a heavy objecr can cause one. Even 21 percent think that you could have a miscarriage just from getting into an argument with someone. But the most common cause is something that’s often beyond your control: genetics.
Myth #3: Drinking a cup of coffee can put your pregnancy at risk.
You shouldn’t be downing coffee by the bucketful, but it’s safe to have a cup of joe while pregnant. According to the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, moderate caffeine consumption—namely, less than 200 milligrams per day—does not appear to be a major contributing factor in miscarriage. To put that in perspective, 8 ounces of brewed coffee has about 137 milligrams of caffeine. Just be sure to stop at one or two cups per day: Research shows that more than that amount may actually up your miscarriage risk.
Myth #4: If you’ve had one miscarriage, you’re destined to have another one.
Having one miscarriage doesn’t automatically mean your odds go up for having another—each pregnancy is a completely separate event.
Myth #5: You did something to cause the miscarriage.
Many women blame themselves for having a miscarriage when it’s not remotely their fault. The same Albert Einstein College of Medicine and Montefiore Medical Center survey found that more than 40 percent of people felt they did something wrong that caused the pregnancy loss, while 28 percent said they were ashamed after having a miscarriage. The survey also revealed that less than half of people felt they got adequate support after suffering a pregnancy loss.