Forget casserole dishes and china sets—couples these days want something far more exceptional.
In true millennial fashion, young newlyweds tend to favor experiences over possessions, and as a result, “honeymoon funds” have skyrocketed in popularity. Searches on Pinterest alone have increased by 200 percent, Pinterest reported in a blog post, according to Brit+Co.
It seems that today’s couples, who often live together before getting married, have already collected the household items—towels, dishes, and small appliances—that typically comprise a wedding gift registry. So instead of asking for home goods, they tend to be honest about what they’ll actually use and enjoy, like help paying for their honeymoon trip.
Pinterest isn’t the only one that’s noticed the changing preference. Across the web, on sites like The Knot and Reddit, wedding guests have shared their less-than-favorable opinions about the trend:
“It’s extremely tacky and very different from asking your guests for dishes. If you don’t want to receive boxed gifts, just don’t register. People will get the hint and you will get cash…Honeyfunds essentially say ‘give me some money’…There really is no correct/polite way to do this,” wrote psiloveyouu.
“This ‘HoneyFund’ is just the sort of tacky selfish thing that the ‘Sponge of the Family’ would consider a great idea. So ask yourself, do you want to be considered The Sponge before asking guests to front money for your honeymoon?” jenniewest said.
“If you asked me for money specifically so YOU could go on a big fancy vacation, I would be super annoyed. Not everyone can go on a vacation, so it’s super obnoxious (in my opinion) to do that,” wmam35 explained.
“Honeymoon registries are asking people for money. No amount of cutesy wording will disguise that,” glasgowtolondon pointed out.
Perhaps we all need to agree to disagree on this one—and let the couple do and ask for what they want on their special day.