Those seemingly harmless words might affect your child’s psychological development far into their adult life.
What follows is a list of 5 harmful phrases kids hear far too often.
#1 – “You’re too sensitive.”
According to psychologists, many kids are simply born with a more finely tuned nervous system. As a result, they react quickly and intensely to just about everything. Parents of such kids often make the mistake of trying to wash that sensitivity out.
Child psychologist Elinor Bashe encourages parents to listen to and accept a child’s emotions, even if they don’t seem logical.
#2 – “That’s life.”
When your child comes home upset because their crush rejected their dance request, it can be tempting to say, “Well, that’s life.” What that phrase suggests is, “Hey – your experience here is nothing unique, so suck it up.”
Instead, you should validate their experience and then encourage resiliency.
#3 – “Because I said so.”
That is a terrible response. It tends to build resentment in children because it forces them to accept a dogmatic belief. This will inevitably lead to a power struggle when that child learns to come up with answers on their own that question their parents’ authority.
#4 – “Shut up.”
Kids learn from a very young age that the phrase ‘shut up’ is meant as an insult. And let’s face it – the last person who should be insulting a child is their parent. Now, chances are you’ve got a very good reason for telling your child to ‘shut up.’
Want to learn about more phrases to avoid saying to your kid? Check out this video!