What 16 Moms Wish They Had Known Before Getting Pregnant

What 16 Moms Wish They Had Known Before Getting Pregnant
“Stop Googling everything!”​

There’s only so much a woman can learn from her ob-gyn, her friends who have kids, and What to Expect When You’re Expecting. So, who wouldn’t want to go back in time and give herself a heads-up about what she could really expect? Cosmopolitan.com asked 16 moms to share the brilliant words of wisdom they wish they could have given themselves before getting pregnant.

1. “Make more time for your partner. It is a time when women are encouraged to be selfish – and I was, but I think I neglected my boyfriend more than he deserved. He was so wonderful to me, and I don’t think I did as good of a job making him feel special and a part of the pregnancy.” –Lauren, 35

2. “STOP Googling everything! At one point, I Googled something dumb like, ‘Is hummus safe during pregnancy?’ and of course got a whole slew of message boards debating whether or not you can get listeria or some other such scary thing from it. That was a ridiculous thing to look up!It’s hummus – not raw chicken! But of course it made me worried. It can definitely be hard to avoid Internet research, but I’ve tried to put that into practice since my son was born and it has helped tremendously!” –Marisa, 32

3. Work out more prior to trying to get pregnant. If I had been in better shape going into my pregnancy, I may have felt a lot better throughout. I had such horrible morning sickness and felt awful. Maybe it wouldn’t have changed anything, but I just have this sinking suspicion it would have helped me. But since I was so out of shape beforehand, it wasn’t recommended that I started during it. ” –Kelly, 38

4. “Try to video your stomach when the baby is kicking. It’s hard to remember what it was like after they’re born, and it’s also fun to show them when they’re older!” –Lisa, 36

5. “Take time to enjoy your pregnancy, even if you are going through morning sickness. There is a magical thing happening. You’re creating life. Relish in all the wonderful things your body is doing.” –Michele, 43

6. “Take care of yourself as much as possible. Take long showers, go get a mani, do anything that you enjoy that is just about you. Everything will be about the baby once they’re here!” –Lindsay, 33

7.Don’t compare yourself to other pregnant women and your pregnant friends. Wish I hadn’t done that, because it added unnecessary anxiety, and every pregnancy is different!” –Lauren, 38

8. “Order the stuff you need for the baby from night 1 (somewhere to sleep!) as early as you can. You never know what people won’t buy you before the baby comes or if that crib will get backordered. You also don’t know how early you’ll go into labor, and you won’t want to do a Buy, Buy Baby run as disoriented, hormonal mess with a needy newborn.” –Meredith, 33

9. Plan for your own needs after the baby was born – like stocking up on foods you love, planning some time out with friends (without the baby), scheduling a massage, and maybe hiring a weekly laundry or cleaning service for the first month if someone can swing the cost. Moms-to-be get so focused on everything they need to get and prepare for the kid, and there’s really no thought about the many ways you’re hurting, and the many things you need to heal, after giving birth.” –Lorraine, 39

10. “Don’t ever let someone tell you that what you think is not normal is.You know your body better than anyone else.” –Angela, 34

11. Line up people to help you both during the pregnancy and once baby comes. Not many of us live in that ‘village’ anymore, but it still takes one to help make sure Mom doesn’t overdo it.” –Kim, 40

12. “Stock up on paper plates, plastic silverware, and as many takeout menus as possible! After I came home from my C-section, the last thing I wanted to do was cook or do the dishes!” – Shelby, 20

13. “It’s the best time to be boho chic! Skip the maternity store, and buy some cute frocks a size up at Urban Outfitters and Free People. After the baby? They make the cutest swimsuit cover-ups.” – Christine, 35

14. “Invest in a good vibrator, because you will think you look fucking hot, and your husband may not agree.” –Alison, 32

15. “Listen to your friend who told you to ask your doctor a zillion questions, shop around, and not be afraid to switch doctors – even mid-pregnancy. I didn’t trust my doctor enough, and that made my pregnancy really frustrating toward the end.” –Meg, 34

16. Prepare to be unprepared. For me, both times pregnancy was notenjoyable. I didn’t go through the struggles many do, but I never ‘glowed.’ I sweat. I never felt ‘angelic.’ I felt like a huge swollen whale. Prepared to be unprepared. [Also,] it’s different pregnancy to pregnancy. The second one, I was prepared for the things I knew like swelling, back pain, etc. but wasn’t prepared to handle the gestational diabetes! It was really hard. But all the struggles are for the best reason possible. Worth it in the end!” –Jackie, 31

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