It can be tricky for moms to tell whether their kids are telling tales or the truth. While we often wish we could break out a lie detector test, that probably wouldn’t fly in certain circles. Instead, here are some common tale-tell signs your child might be lying. If you notice your kids exhibiting more than a few of the following signs, it might be worth digging a bit deeper into their story!
1. UNUSUAL EYE CONTACT
Young children who are lying often avoid eye contact. But as children get older and more savvy, they may overcompensate while lying and hold your gaze without looking away at all. As a result, both very little or very long eye contact may indicate untruthfulness.
Another common sign of lying is repeating part of a question as part of a response. This is usually a way of stalling for more time to think of a story. For example, if you asked your child what they were doing with a friend after school, they might respond, “What was I doing with Matt after school? Well I was . . . ”
3. TOUCHING THE FACE
Touching parts of the face – whether scratching an ear or touching the nose or head – may be signs your child isn’t telling the truth. Similarly, licking or biting the lips is another clue.
Inconsistencies in your child’s story are one of the surest signs that you’re not getting the real deal.
5. DEFENSIVE REACTIONS
A lying child will often overreact to your accusations, so be wary if her defense is a little too passionate.
6. UNUSUAL GESTURES
Is your child all of a sudden using gestures to tell a story or standing with her hands behind her back? Her unusual gestures or body position may indicate she’s telling a tale.
7. BLINKING CHANGES
Your child’s eyes can give away her fib. Both blinking much more than usual or not blinking at all are signs that something is up.
Do you see your child wringing her hands or squirming while telling her story? That’s another clue that she’s feeling uncomfortable because she’s not telling you the truth.
Unless your child is typically extremely talkative, excited and rambling behavior is often a sign that she’s trying to make her story more believable by adding details.
10. CHANGED TONE OR SPEED OF SPEECH
Long pauses, hesitation, or speaking in a lower voice are additional clues that a child is not telling the truth.