1. Take care of yourself.

It’s hard to assume responsibility for caring for another human being, so make sure you take care of yourself.  Identify physical and emotional triggers that can make you lose it. A healthy mind is in a healthy body is the key phrase here.

2. Be consistent with discipline.

Kids may seem like that are rebelling against rules, but they are actually grateful for a structure and rules in their lives. Always be consistent with house rules and consequences gives them the much-needed sense of stability and helps them make better decisions.

3. Focus on the effort.

Lose the limelight on the result and focus on the effort they put in. They will work harder each time if they know you won’t be disappointed if they didn’t “win”.

4. Keep the communication on top of your priority list.

The channel for communication  has to be established from very early on. Talk with your child, ask them how they feel and how their day was. Do not push them allow them to open up freely.

5. Be optimistic…

When children see parents consistently project a positive attitude, it becomes the natural thing for them.

6. But keep it real.

The myth of the happy family is also real. Avoiding all negative emotions and feelings from your kids is just as bad as exposing them to it too much. Kids who do not see negative emotions in the family are less equipped to process feelings like sadness, anger and disappointment- which are inevitable parts of growing up.

7. Give them fewer toys.

Kids who have less toys explore more. Children have the unique ability to create new games and make a plaything out of anything at all – so loud, blaring ‘educational’ toys could have the opposite effect. Plus, it solves the problem called “entitlement’ to a great extent.

8. Leave them on their own.

Parents who are overly anxious about the abilities of their children have earned a new title for themselves -helicopter parents . The truth is – kids adapt faster than we can even imagine and it will only get better if they don’t find us hovering around them all the time, barring when they are in danger. Children are known to show better instincts, social skills and presence of mind in environments where they are on their own.

9. Give them responsibilities.

Children who are handed regular chores have shown improved mental, social and emotional cognition. It is also how we reinforce that importance of forming and keeping social relationships and keeping it all balanced.

10. Teach them gratitude.

Children raised with an attitude of gratitude  are known to show more resilience and a reduced tendency to be depressed. Just like everything else, a grateful attitude gets better with practice.